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Marriage Counseling Therapy
Marriage therapy—often called couples therapy or marriage counseling—is a professional service designed to help couples resolve conflicts, improve intimacy, rebuild trust, and strengthen their relationship.
Can Be Done As a married couple or Individual
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As a Married Couple: Partners work together to resolve conflict, understand each other better, and deepen intimacy.
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As an Individual: One person explores their own relational patterns, attachment wounds, and role in the relationship dynamic.
Core Elements of Marriage Therapy
1. Identification of Interaction Patterns & Core Issues
Help couples recognize entrenched negative cycles—like criticism, defensiveness, or stonewalling—and underlying triggers, beliefs, and emotional reactions that perpetuate conflict.
2. Communication & Active Listening
Central to therapy is building skills in active listening, creating mutual understanding and reducing escalation.
3. Emotion Awareness, Vulnerability & Empathy
Couples are guided to explore and share deep emotions—fear, hurt, longing—and to respond empathically and supportively, fostering emotional safety and connection.
4. Building Trust, Intimacy & Emotional Bonding
Restoring trust—especially after betrayal—through transparency, consistency, forgiveness, and emotional intimacy is essential to healing and closeness.
5. Conflict Resolution & Problem‑Solving
Therapy teaches how to manage and resolve conflicts collaboratively—finding win‑win solutions, negotiating differences, and de-escalating emotional reactivity.
6. Strength‑Based Approach & Shared Meaning
Help couples identify their shared values and strengths, reinforce positive interactions—both verbally and behaviorally—and cultivate mutual goals and rituals.
7. Goal Setting, Tailored Feedback & Progress Monitoring
At the start, couples typically set clear objectives. Therapists then track progress, adjust interventions, and may assign "homework" to reinforce gains outside sessions.
8. Approach Integration: Change & Acceptance
Therapy combines behavior change—learning new ways of relating—with acceptance of personality differences, aiming for both transformation and emotional balance.
9. Therapist Qualities, Safety & A Supportive Environment
A successful therapeutic space is grounded in confidentiality, respect, empathy, and cultural sensitivity, allowing partners to feel safe to explore difficult dynamics.
The Goal:
To move from reactive patterns to intentional connection
To replace misunderstanding with mutual understanding
To shift from survival mode to a relationship that supports growth, love, and trust
Let’s walk this path together—with gentleness, respect, and deep care.
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Let’s talk about where you are now and how I can support you.
YOU DESERVE
AN AMAZING LIFE & GREAT RELATIONSHIPS.
ANGER ISSUES CAN BE
OVERCOME WITH
THERAPY, GUIDANCE & COACHING.
Hi! I'm Lady SC from Singapore and I've helped hundreds of people in the past 20+ years to overcome anger issues.
Life Coach | Hypnotherapist | NLP Master Trainer & Practitioner
My Approach to Marriage Therapy
Addressing intimacy in relationship therapy involves a structured yet flexible approach that considers emotional, physical, and psychological components of closeness between partners. Here's a breakdown of a comprehensive approach:
1. Assessment Phase
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Initial Intake and History: Understand the couple’s relationship history, communication style, attachment patterns, sexual history, and individual concerns.
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Identify the Intimacy Issues:
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Emotional distance
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Physical/sexual dissatisfaction
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Trust issues or trauma
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Mismatched intimacy needs
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Address sexual trauma, shame, or dysfunction with sensitivity.
2. Psychoeducation
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Types of Intimacy: Educate on different kinds—emotional, physical, intellectual, experiential, spiritual.
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Myths vs. Reality: Challenge cultural or personal myths (e.g., “intimacy = sex”).
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Attachment Theory: Explore how attachment styles influence intimacy needs and fears.
3. Communication Skills Building
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Teach active listening, validation, and non-defensive communication.
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Use tools like "I-statements", mirroring, and time-outs during conflict.
4. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
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Focuses on creating secure emotional bonds.
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Helps partners recognize and express underlying needs and fears.
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Builds empathy and responsiveness to enhance closeness.
5. Cognitive Behavioral Interventions
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Identify and reframe maladaptive beliefs about intimacy, vulnerability, or sex.
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Challenge perfectionism, fear of rejection, or guilt related to closeness.
6. Rebuilding Trust and Safety
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If there has been betrayal or trauma, focus on trauma-informed care.
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Create rituals of connection and repair.
9. Homework and Experiential Exercises
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Daily connection rituals (e.g., gratitude check-ins, 20-minute talks).
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Physical intimacy assignments (e.g., holding hands, cuddling).
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Shared experiences (e.g., date nights, new hobbies).
10. Evaluation and Maintenance
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Review progress regularly.
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Create a plan for maintaining intimacy post-therapy.
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Teach relapse prevention for falling back into old patterns.
Clients Reviews
Jeslyn Goh
I am a 35 yo SAHM. I struggled hard with my loss of identity when I became a SAHM with a home-based business. I was weighed down by daily tasks around the house especially after my helper left. I had harsh & unrealistic expectations of myself, didn’t love myself enough to rest & had to be busy every single day to feel that I was contributing to the household.
I saw SC because I knew that I had issues that I needed to fix so that I can be a better mother to my child and a better wife to my husband.
Through the sessions, SC listened attentively to all my concerns, rants and spotted issues in my life that started from my childhood, resulting in my struggles as an adult.
She guided me through with release & breathing practices and was always available for me via WhatsApp.
I had about 6 sessions and after those sessions I truly feel that she equipped me with tools to navigate through my feelings and challenges in life. My husband sees her as well and she has helped better our lives tremendously by letting go of our past/grudges.
SC, thank you so much for helping me, my husband and some of my friends. I am very happy to have crossed paths with you ♥️
Sam Wong
Before seeking help from lady SC, I was an angry man. I got triggered even on the slightest things. I seemed only saw the flaws in people especially my family members. I felt they were living a life that is wasteful and I needed to parent them including my mother.
Moreover, I was stuck at work with not much progression in the past few years and my marriage was on the verge of divorce. I found my wife didn’t not love me and only care for our children. I thought seeking for help was the last resort before making the major decision.
In the coaching lesson, she taught me how to see within instead of what’s out side of me. I learned that I had so many unhappiness in me since childhood and I continue to be unhappy even though my life has changed. I stuck myself in this state probably because I was clinging on to those familiar feelings in me of unhappiness and hope others can make me happy. I thought I was always right, being cautious and do the right thing even for my family members.
I am grateful the coaching lessons has helped me to see the light of having choices to choose to be happy, even though I am not perfect.
Now my life has drastically change to a peaceful and joyful one. I am definitely much calmer and be able to find joy in little things that I do.
Thank you Lady SC, deeply appreciate her help in finding back my life. I am braver to get in touch with my own feelings now.
Jacqueline
This Happiness Coaching does help me to know myself better. I can never imagine the submerged mind able to cause such tremendous cause of my life. From devastating to filled with love. It is a magical experience. I wish I continue to grow and be grateful everyday. Thank you Lady SC.